Honoring Your "Him"...

After the wedding, the honeymoon, the post-honeymoon bliss lol, then comes the life...yes, your life together, everyday, all-day! As a wife the only instruction given to us from God was to "submit to your husbands." Ephesians 5: 22-24. It seems simple enough right, wrong. But it should though, shouldn't it? After all it's the only task we have, however it is one of the greatest challenges marriages face today.

Honoring your husband is so broad, it spans from agreeing with his motivation (so long as it's in line with God's will) even when we don't particularly like his method, to never having a "headache" on the nights he has made us unhappy and everything in between. One very major "in between" is our tone- what we say, how we respond, verbally and non-verbally. We must honor our husband in our communication, it makes sense because this is probably the most frequent activity we engage in with him, even when we are silent! A soft answer is like a sweet kiss, close your eyes and ponder on that for a moment. Imagine a gentle breeze blowing through a window with lace curtains, yes! Proverbs 15: 1

The good news is, God doesn't give us more than we can handle. It can be done as long as we have our hearts stayed on God, see your husband as a means to an end, you are honoring him to honor God. God IS the end, therefore dishonoring your husband means dishonoring God. Another way to look at it is this, honoring your husband is practice for honoring God- when you honor a husband you can see, its easier to honor a God that you can't see...1 John 4:20.

And what if your husband is an unbeliever? Honor him anyway. "In the same way, wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, even if some disobey the Christian message, they may be won over without a message by the way their wives live." 1 Peter 3:1

xoxo